Saturday, October 17, 2009

Don’t hide your light under a basket.

Many athletes know or come to know the Cross through the ecstasy of sport. Revelations of great comfort and promise have come to me often while engrossed in physical conditioning. In fact, sometimes, I can’t hear God until I have physically settled down the meaningless distractions that can plague me. There is nothing like a good run to clear the mental clutter and make room for a heart to heart moment with our Father. It is an awesome blessing to realize how God speaks to us and walks with us according to our individual personalities. Sport too often is trivialized when in fact it is talent gifted to us by God. Faithful organizations of athletes who go out and serve others are thoughtful, generous, and giving. Thank God for the talented yet humble athletes who accomplish great feats. While too many athletes are satisfied with their prizes and notoriety, others are called to serve. Those athletes who are called to serve, recognize the need to inspire and to provide for others who are less fortunate. They have a light that shines. Yet, this aspect of athleticism is only part of the ministry related to sport. Sport is worthy for its transformative power and influence on our individual determination and ability to persevere. We miss a great opportunity, when we minimize the ways in which our own spirituality is enhanced through sport. I often see God as my Coach. His wisdom is unmatched. He speaks to me on the sidelines (of life) and sends me back in the game a better player. So, this is for all you athletes, recreational, used to be, elite, pro, or want to be, or full of excuses, whatever:

“You are the light of the world. A city built on a hill-top cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp to put it under at tub; they put it on the lamp-stand where it shines for everyone in the house. In the same way your light must shine in people’s sight, so that, seeing your good works, they may give praise to your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:14-16- The New Jerusalem Bible)

Besides providing for the body (which is the temple of our soul), sports and fitness allow us opportunities to experience God within. A triathlete pursuing an ironman finish must seem crazy to some, but to others, it could be a means to experience the “extraordinary”. To know God is to tap into Extraordinary. Since God made us in His image and no one of us is exactly the same as another, why should we expect our relationship with our Creator to be anything less than individualistic and personal?

Here is a sweet victory story about a former student of mine, Adam. Keep in mind, this was middle school. Adolescents are terribly vulnerable, yet they can be heartless in peer groups and to one another. Adam was crippled with shyness because he stuttered. Since he was less self-conscious with me, he would speak in his halting manner about soccer. He was a good athlete. With all his brains and charm, I felt badly that he was avoiding potential friendships and never spoke up in class. One day he asked me if I thought he could speak about a paragraph of a report he had written in front of the class. He thought he was up to the challenge. We talked about tough moments in soccer, like penalty kicks and tie game kick-offs; moments when all eyes are on you, the pressure can be paralyzing. We talked about how we as athletes handle those moments. I reminded him that most people, spectators and classmates alike, do have compassion. They see themselves in similar situations and want the best outcome. No one really wants to suffer or to see another suffer. Dancers, writers, craftsmen, speakers, artists, musicians, scientists all practice to hone skills and to improve. It was obvious to Adam that in order to improve, he’d have to practice and thus be put to the test. I made some precursory announcement to the class about respecting the challenges that some students (and adults) face in speaking in front of groups. Some students gleaned that this was a moment which would call them to a higher standard. Others were clueless. Adolescents, right? Humans? So Adam spoke a perfect first sentence, and then, it happened. He couldn’t speak a word. Opening his mouth, only guttural noises came forth. His distress was obvious. I thought about how Peter in the Bible stepped out on to the Sea of Galilee to approach our Lord, then fear overtook him, and he had to cry out for help as he began to sink. What would Adam do here? How long should I let him suffer with this first experiment? One student in the class called out some mockery of Adam, like “what is the matter with him…what an idiot”. A number of students in the class glared at the student who spoke out. Their chastisement was far more powerful than anything I could say or do. In fact, my intervention would have seemed somewhat parental. Adam knew that the class wanted him to overcome. I could sense that he was determined. Another sport’s image came to mind, and something like it was happening for Adam. Sometimes at a tennis match, when one player is losing resolve, fans begin to clap to call the nearly defeated player back to rally. The class waited. Adam regained his composure and spoke the rest of the paragraph. It was one of those rare Olympic moments. We as witnesses, were transformed. Students spoke to Adam after class. They were patient with him. It wasn’t long before he was joining classmates at a lunch table. One day, toward the end of the school year, he introduced me to his girlfriend.

We are all different, aren’t we? My mission is to help those athletes and non-athletes alike celebrate the special ways that God ministers to all of us. I believe sport has many virtues and lessons. Give honor and glory to God by using the talents you were given.

We have opportunities for Olympic moments. We are called to be extraordinary in the depth of our faith. Be not afraid. The love of God is mightier than any test.

Let your light shine. We need you, child of God.

Friday, September 18, 2009

Inspiration for the hard times. James 1:1-4

Has your heart ever been broken with great sadness? Have you ever faced a situation in life where you were sure it was more than you could endure?

Here is a good scripture for those hard times: "Count it all joy, my brethren, when you meet various trials, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness (defined as: steadiness and loyalty in the face of trial and difficulty). And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing." James 1:1-4.

It is yet another reminder, that we need to do the impossible. Not just to believe our way through the tough times, but to "count them all joy". Now that's really asking a lot: that we should count our trials as joys? Of course, by no means are we to seek out suffering. But when it comes, and few are spared its visit, pray for the strength to welcome it. For with faith, we can endure. Think about it: can anyone really know perseverance without the test? If you have never faced down the thing "feared" or the unutterable, terrible despair, how can you know the gift of fortitude? If you have never neared or hit the wall within, that internal gauge which reads "empty" with nothing in reserve, how will you know your potential to prevail? This is when the mystery of the Spirit becomes real.

Sustaining hope and joy in the face of adversity is the topic of exploration in Sporting Our Spirit. I hope to use the power of sports' metaphors and the virtues embodied in sports (athletes, coaches, games, spectators, and all) to reinforce great lessons of the Gospel: endurance, running the good race, lifting up others (our earthly teammates), and most importantly, trusting God, our heavenly Father, the ultimate Coach and Referee. Know that it is possible with His help to press on. God showed us the unsurpassable example of loving determination and commitment to His will through the life of Christ, His son, our Savior, the ultimate Olympian. Christ did give his all. He stayed the course....perfectly. In Mark 9:23, Christ asks the question of us... "If you can? All things are possible to those that believe." So "be strong and of good courage; be not afraid, neither be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go"(Joshua 1:9).

The citation from the bible book of Joshua is fortifying and personally relevant to me. Joshua is also my younger son's name. We have in common our determination in life, quite likely a benefit derived from our athletic aptitude. We have also been scarred and transformed by tragedy. In 1999, we were a family of four. Over the course of 5 years, we would lose David and Jake, father and son to depression, substance abuse, and in the end, to suicide, both of them. Our hearts ache with grief. Most days we accept and live with the reality of our losses. Some days, the "why's" and "what if's" are brutal and exhausting. Our story is awful and one (usually by our own doing) that can often alienate us from others. Yet, together, Josh and I, though separated by lots of miles, have survived, sometimes even thrived. Neither of us deserves or desires any special credit for persevering. I believe it is by the Grace of God that in light of our tragedies, most days, we are optimists. The desire to help others by sharing the fruits of God's grace is my objective.

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God Bless.


Friday, August 14, 2009

The Compassionate Friends (TCI) National Convention

My son, Josh and I attended the Portland, OR National Convention of TCI. TCI is the largest support network for families who have lost a child to any cause. It seemed that there were at least 1000 in attendance at this conference. While grief is omnipresent at such a large convention, so are stories of inspiration, hope, and courage. Images of children of all ages who have died are everywhere. We even wear the pictures of them on our clothes as buttons and pictured on our name tags. Josh and I presented twice on the topic of sport and spirit. It was our goal to make the connection between the attributes that athletes possess, which in turn can bolster the spirits of those who mourn. Perseverance, and suffering to a degree, exist in both instances. First we spoke with a group of adults, many of whom were athletes. In the second session we spoke with mostly young adult siblings, a much smaller group. They too were primarily athletes. I believe we gave the attendees something to think about and I hope to hear from some of the them. In the end, I would say it is very difficult to pack up these keepsakes (memories, pictures, and stories) and move back into the real world where most people, even family and friends, may not feel comfortable in conversation with you and your grief.